Moving Abroad: A Financial Guide

Bonne Année!

I don’t want to deter anyone, yet in all honesty, moving abroad can be terribly expensive. Unless your job is relocating you and fitting the bill, there’s no way around this one. However don’t bother buying lottery tickets or playing Blackjack in Vegas, I’m gonna tell you how we are doing it.

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I bought Liv these play Euros two years ago. Liv’s Godmommy, Aimee, gave her real Euros for Christmas. The mini world notebooks are from Rifle Paper Co.

During the time I spent waiting to get an approval from Antz HR team, I spent months researching moving abroad online, putting together all the necessary documents, and talking to people who have lived abroad. I have read so many helpful blogs that share their experiences as an expat but never found anyone in my particular situation.  Some of my favorites are:

The American in Paris (Stephen offers an excellent guide to moving abroad)
Oh Happy Day  (thanks for answering all my questions Jordan!)
Design Mom (Gabrielle moved to France with SIX kids)

First, here’s a brief background on us. We are textbook American middle class; too poor to be rich, too rich to be poor. Typically, a move abroad is funded by your employer but we are moving voluntarily which means we have to pay for everything ourselves. Start saving now, pay off your debts and cut all the extras (daily lattes, mani/pedis, expensive clothes, etc.) the more time you have to prepare, the easier it will be. It wasn’t too difficult for me to stop daily Starbucks runs and give up mani/pedis but it was hard not to travel for an entire year. We were tempted so many times over the past summer to take a trip since people asking to house swap with us in New York, London and Australia. The goal is to trim your costs well in advance and create a realistic budget for what you plan to spend monthly while you are abroad. My high estimate will be 2000 euros monthly for living expenses not including our mortgage and Los Angeles utilities.

Utilities
Building Charges                                                               €150
Electricity                                                                            €150
Gas – Water                                                                          included
Internet                                                                                included
Living Expenses
Groceries/Dining Out                                                                   €600
Metro Monthly Pass/Pass Navigo Découverte                        €146
Spending Cash                                                                               €400
Museum visits/Ballet Classes – (10 class punch card)            €150
Household Shopping – Toiletries                                               €150
Uber/Misc.                                                                                      €254

I asked people who lived in France what the typical cost of things were so I had a strong gauge of our expenses. This is actually less than what we spend in Los Angeles. I am excited to turn in my car lease because for the first time in sixteen years I won’t have a car payment! We will be getting a monthly metro pass. We are in a unique situation because in Los Angeles we spend a hefty amount monthly on tuition however, in Paris Olivia will be attending public school.  We are also cutting back on Liv’s after school activities like Taekwondo and cheerleading. I will continue ballet classes (I found the perfect ballet school in le Marais) and I’m hoping to find a volleyball club. I am used to going grocery shopping every week and Target (for household supplies) every two weeks. Without a car I will no longer be buying things in bulk, so we should be spending less on food and household items. I plan to continue my Amazon Prime in Paris and I’m replacing online shopping with traveling. Oh, how I miss French food!

Now, here is the tricky part, staying in France for more than 90 days requires a visa. We got our visas, differently.

Antz will be working remotely for his company so technically he didn’t have to apply for a French work visa. I hired Stephen as our visa consultant so we had someone to ask questions and give us advice. We also hired an expat tax advisor to make sure we were clear on our tax obligation. More on taxes later… Halfway through working with our visa consultant, Antz company told him they would assist him in getting an intra-company transfer (ICT) visa. From what I understand, he will be transferred to his company’s office located in Paris instead of being an outside employee. They only require him to work out of the Paris office twice a month. This was great news because now his company was semi-sponsoring his visa although we are still on the hook for the $1,300 fees. Liv and I are attached to his visa as family members but I had to write a statement saying I promise not to work while in France (like that was hard). If you’re applying for a long stay tourist visa (carte de sejour) you must show that you have enough money in the bank for a year abroad. What that magic number is, I’m not sure but we are showing his pay stubs as proof of income. Expatica is an excellent comprehensive website that breaks down the necessary documents needed. Once you get approved for a visa in America you aren’t done yet! You must register at the police prefecture and French Office of Immigration and Integration in Paris and have a health exam (which requires an x-ray) at your local maire (town hall) a few weeks after you arrive in France. We will also register at the American Embassy.

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Our visa appointment is scheduled for January, eep!! I have been putting together our documents for months. I paid someone to translate our birth certificates and our marriage license into French. I plan on using Olivia as our good luck French-speaking charm at our appointment.

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So here’s the bad news, because we are spending more than 170 days in France, even though we aren’t expats, we are still considered residents of France so in 2019, we will have to pay French income taxes. We are going from a 28% tax bracket to 45%! That sucks but our tax adviser will be able to apply for a foreign earned tax credit so that should help take some of the sting off. Antz HR team are keeping him on American payroll so he will continue paying social security, medical benefits, contributing to his 401k, etc. I highly recommend going over your finances with a CPA or tax advisor so you have an understanding of your tax obligation. You must file for taxes in both America and France even if you don’t owe any taxes.

 

In the spirit of keeping it real, here’s a breakdown of our expenses. The first and most important expense is getting your passport.

Passport renewal – $140 per person ($60 for expedited service)

Our passports were set to expire in August 2017 so it was time for us to renew but when applying for a visa, your passport must not expire three months before returning to the States. We ordered passport cards which can expedite the lines at customs. The normal processing time is 4 – 6 weeks but ours arrived in two weeks.

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Visa photos – $8 each/ $15 for non-members (we found AAA to be the best)

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We needed at least four photos per person for the visas and also spares in case we lost our passports. P.S. The embassy requests NO SMILES which took many tries.

Visa fees – €1000/$1315

When I began filling out our visa applications, I had many questions and wasn’t sure if we had all the necessary documents. I found Stephen from his great blog about his experience moving to France and now he offers his expertise to expats. I didn’t originally budget for his fee but I also thought, why wouldn’t I hire someone who knows the ins and out of applying for a visa and can answer all these questions I have? I bombarded him with questions, sought his advice in every one of our specific scenarios and had a Skype meeting for moral support. Stephen helped tremendously and I felt much more confident approaching our visa appointment.

Long-stay tourist visa costs – $120 per person (Children under 6 are free)

You can only make an in-person visa appointment at the French consulate closest to your state so some people may have to add the cost to fly in for the appointment. The earliest you can request an appointment is three months prior to your departure date so schedule the earlier the better. The fee is actually 99 euros and the consulate only takes credit or debit cards (No cash, checks) Here is a link to the Los Angeles French consulate. Jordan gave me the tip to dress nicely to give a good impression. Read all about our appointment here.

Certified French Translator – $350 for 4 documents

I found certified translator, Odile Barth, from the LA French consulate website. She’s very nice and fast. You scan and email her the documents and she will mail the translations to you. It was strange seeing our birth certificates in French. If you need to order copies of your birth certificates, you have to go in-person to the County Recorder Office. I needed Antz birth certificate so I waited in line for over an hour but the kind woman really helped me out. I started chatting about our move and she asked if I had our marriage license. She really saved me because the marriage license I planned to take to our appointment wasn’t an official embossed version. The documents were $14 a piece, I think. Make 3 copies of everything!

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Getting There Expenses

It’s absolutely nuts that a one-way ticket cost more than a round trip fare. Once upon a time, in a land far, far away I worked in the airline industry so I had the privilege of flying for free or extremely discounted fare. I searched every discount website there was. After ruling out a couple for shady reviews, here’s what I found, the more layovers, the lower the fare. Right now Wow Airlines (which I really like) has the lowest economy fare but they have a layover in Reykjavik. We are traveling with our huge iMac computer and eight heavy suitcases with our entire lives packed in them, so I wasn’t going to risk losing anything or missing a connecting flight.

We got lucky when it came time to purchase our airfare. I checked fares daily for a year and waited the recommended fifty-four days before our departure date. Norwegian Air‘s premium class was offering non-stop flights at the same price as economy on other airlines. We saved a lot of money not having to ship our things because premium class includes two check-in bags per person in the fare. I am an over-packer so having to limit myself to 44 lbs per bag, for a year’s worth of clothes and shoes will be close to impossible. We should be completely packed by next month but I anticipate being closer to 50 lbs but it’s still less expensive if I prepay for overweight luggage online than at the airport.

Remember, you are required to bring airline tickets reserved in your name to your visa appointment at the French consulate. This is where shit gets real. Buying airplane tickets is not only expensive but it commits you financially and physically. I couldn’t bring myself to pay $500 per person for non-refundable tickets so I took a serious gamble that our visas will get approved. However, if we don’t get approved for our visas I will purchase return tickets and enjoy a looooooong trip to Paris.

Airfare – $2,068.50 Norwegian Air  ($689 one-way premium fare)

I am so excited to fly Norwegian Airlines! They have super reasonable fares and since I’ve been following them on Instagram, I’ve seen they offer affordable flights to many of the places I plan to visit in Europe. Their premium class fare cost the same as other airlines economy fare and since it’s a special occasion, it’s nice to upgrade our seats.

Excess Luggage – $100 (excess beyond 44 lbs)

Thanks to Norwegian’s premium fare, we are able to check our six bags for free so we should only need to pay for our Mac computer box. We aren’t paying to ship anything but the lowest quote I got when I inquired was $2,000 for an International MoveCube.

Luggage  – $85 each from Amazon

As much as I like pretty luggage, I ended buying a practical deployment duffle bags. I needed something that was huge without a hefty price tag. I almost bought these bags because I like the brand but the difference in price was $100 and I needed four bags. My Mom (who is a veteran world traveler) gave me a foldable travel duffle to carry our household items (my toiletries that aren’t sold in Paris, Liv’s toys, books and larger items). I used a vacuum sealed ziplock bag to fit our king size bedding.

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Carry on suitcase –  $245 from Away

I ended up investing in a quality carry-on hardshell bag after seeing Away all over Instagram. Normally I would buy a cute but cheap suitcase from Target but in my experience they never last long and I’ve had zippers break during a trip which is annoying. The suitcase from Away is guaranteed unbreakable and has a built in phone charger. I love their West Hollywood store.

Travel Adaptors and converters – $42.99 – $19.99 from Amazon

Now, I consider myself a seasoned traveler yet when it comes to finding the perfect travel adapter I haven’t found one that is reliable other than my Apple Macbook Air adapter. I have bought super expensive ones and when I tried to use them, they were shaped like a square when every single outlet in the house we rented was shaped like a circle. I have bought cheaper ones from Target and it ended up frying my cell phone charger when we were in London. I did some research and read reviews before buying this one.

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I like that there are USB outlets built-in so we can charge multiple devices at once and has the ability to use this converter in several other countries. I did read that the fan can be noisy but we will see. I also bought a twelve pack of adaptors. I already owned this travel adaptor which worked for my flat iron.

 

Travel books – $105 (The New York Times 36 Hours Europe, Europe by Eurail guide book, The New Paris and Don’t be a Tourist in Paris)

I adore travel books however, they are heavy in our suitcases. I had to prioritize how many books to bring with us. I was lucky to find 36 Hours on sale for half off at Taschen. It’s great for it’s practical travel information and it has beautiful photography. I also found this Eurail guide quite useful. I’ve heard nothing but great reviews on The New Paris and Messy Nessy’s chic guide to Paris. My plan is to travel every weekend and holiday.

All together I spent about $800 on moving supplies but I bought everything during the Black Friday sales so I spent half of what was originally budgeted.

Sixt Car Rental – $300 for four days

We will be renting an ugly minivan upon arrival for the first few days. With so much luggage, it would be ridiculous to take an Uber or the metro. There aren’t many choices when it comes to renting a car in France that has automatic transmission. My bestie Aimee thinks I’m crazy for driving in Paris but if I could drive in London, I’m sure I can handle Parisian traffic. I would love to drive a cute vintage Fiat while we are abroad but so far I’ve only found manual transmission available. As much as I’ve tried, Lizzie can no drivie a stickie.

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International Drivers License – $14 from American Automobile Association (AAA)

I will be the primary driver while we are abroad. The Int’l drivers license will cover me in most European countries however, it’s only valid for a year. I’ve been a triple A member for most of my driving years yet this year has been the most I’ve utilized their services. Our membership is valid even while we are overseas!

 

Total Moving Expenses – $3,500 approx.

Our California Expenses 

Post Office box rental – $96 annually

I rented a PO box in my Mom’s town so she can pick up my mail for me and forward important parcels. There is a company that will forward your mail and packages to overseas addresses.

VPN Virtual Private Network – $99 annually

This is important so you can access American websites like Netflix and for Antz to connect to his job’s network securely. I haven’t picked which one I will use yet but they are necessary.

Farmers Renters insurance – $515 annually

I highly recommend getting this supplemental homeowners coverage if for anyone who will be staying in your home. This helped me feel at ease about leaving our house furnished.

Utilities/Gardener – $300 per month

Ugh, this sucks! I know this may sound high but I would much rather pay my own bills in Los Angeles than pay bills in Paris and not know the stability of the euro. All my utility bills are automatically drafted from my bank and I know exactly how much they are every month so it won’t be difficult to manage from France. Living abroad could mean so many variables that I may not control (the French are famous for their bureaucracy, and the unpredictable foreign currency market)  I’ve heard getting utilities set up for Americans can be difficult. For example, if you want to rent an apartment, you may have to put up to a year of rent in an escrow account and you have to show proof that you have a French bank account. In order to get a French bank account, you need to show a lease agreement. How? Our monthly utilities are gas, wifi, security alarm, and our cell phones. I also made an arrangement with our gardener to prepay him in cash for fifteen months. I will pay electric in Paris but it should be about 150 euros or less.

This best sums up our expenses before we even set foot on the plane. Everyone’s budget is unique and I’m no expert. I am certain our expenses are fairly higher due to the cost of living in Los Angeles. My neurotic worries needed to be at ease so I ponied up for the extra insurance, hired a visa consultant and tax advisor. I hope this post gives an honest insight to the insane list of things to do and cost of making our dream of living in Paris come true.

Feel free to ask me anything or give me your suggestions!

A bientôt!

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A Dream is a wish your heart makes

If you have come into contact with me for the past two years then you may already know my life dream is to move to France for a year. I think I have told our mailman, everyone at Liv’s French school and even total strangers who humor me with a smile while I crazily go on and on about it. I’ve always dreamed of living abroad. I have been researching, prepping and planning for this move but not exactly sure how to make it possible.

Well, I got my wish…

Our family is moving to Paris, FRANCE!!!

Antz asked me what I wanted for my 40th birthday and I said, I would like for you to ask again if you can work abroad. His boss didn’t think it would work a year ago but we couldn’t give up on this dream. Antz and I put together a new proposal and we waited a year. In hindsight, as devastating as that initial NO was, it only motivated me more. We took that year to make much needed renovations to our house and even took a lovely unexpected trip to Iceland. Antz connected with the right people at work, submitted his proposal and his boss gave him the green light! I have been waiting in agony for months having to hold in this secret, waiting to get everything in order. I am elated to finally be able to share our great news. It still doesn’t feel real. I have been wanting this for so long that I haven’t even processed that this is finally happening. When Antz told me his boss agreed, I cried with joy. I could not have made this happen without his job being onboard so I am so grateful that he was able to negotiate this move. We have a lot of preparations ahead of us but I am confident I will have everything aligned.

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I posted this inspiration on my Instagram the day Antz asked his boss to work abroad, exactly one year until we leave! We are planning to swap with a lovely French family during our time abroad. I will post about how we are house swapping soon.

The trickiest part will be getting our long stay visas (carte de sejour). We have to fill out tons of paperwork, make copies of everything, and translate our paperwork into French. I have heard that French bureaucracy is a nightmare so we are hiring a consultant to assist us with the visas. I don’t want to have any surprises that will hold up the process. There’s also all the moving expenses: airfare *did you know a one-way ticket cost more than a roundtrip ticket?* and other logistics like renter’s insurance, international health insurance policy, opening a French bank account and our expenses in California. We may rent a storage unit for the stuff we aren’t bringing and we’ll need to get a post office box to forward all our mail. I have already written a post about the visa process and all of our moving expenses. We are planning to makeover our bathroom and paint our bedroom in the next few months. Hopefully, #45 won’t mess things up too badly for our swappers to get approved for their visas. Fingers crossed!

Antz wanted to set a realistic timeline to prepare ourselves for this move. So we gave ourselves year to get everything in place. I am so glad Olivia is young enough to adapt to this move away from her life in LA. She plans to stay in touch with her friends via Skype, writing letters and will check in for scheduled video chats with her class. I know she will benefit so much by traveling at a young age. I feel like this strengthens our choice of French immersion education.

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During my surprise visit to Paris to see Aimee I fell in love with a school near Aimee’s rental. I took this photo and told her, I would love for Liv to go to that school. Turns out, the family we are swapping with lives a block from this school! I found a ballet school for her close by so she will continue her classes. I didn’t know it at the time but the neighborhood I was visiting Aimee was the same area we are moving to. I know those streets so well and feel very at home there. Antz will have the opportunity to visit art schools and industry events in Paris to seek new talent for his work team. He will also visit his company’s office in London. I am sure the change of environment will reenergize his creativity. I am excited to take French lessons while Liv is in school. There’s no doubt, Paris would be an inspiring place for all of us.

I often catch myself daydreaming about what our life over there would be like. I imagine us biking along the Seine, having a picnic in Jardin du Tuileries next to a gorgeous carousel with the Eiffel Tower in the distance, it’s too perfect for words. I am so excited to experience total immersion, to finally learn French so I can speak with Liv. I have no doubt Olivia will thrive in school because her French is so strong and she is great at making new friends. She is so excited to live in Paris. I can’t wait to live without being a slave to my car. I look forward to strolling along the cobblestone paved roads staring at the gorgeous Parisian architecture. I am thrilled to experience the weather. In LA, I get to wear my scarves and sweaters a few days out of the year so bring on the cold!  I can’t wait to hop on a train and take weekend trips throughout Europe. There are so many cities in France I hope to visit. My goal is to travel to twenty European countries during our time abroad.

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We will be leaving in March 2018. Only Six months away!! This was the most incredible birthday gift I could ever receive. Thank you so much Antz for making my dream come true!

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I bought that amazing Things will work out print from People I’ve Loved.

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Guns, I’m just saying.

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Liv doing her homework which is singing in French, j’adore!

Have you ever tried to hold in barf? I have, and despite me holding my lips shut and trying to run to the bathroom in time, it came up (re-routing out of my nose!) I know this is a graphic image but I watched the CNN Guns in America: Obama Town Hall tonight and the entire time I felt the urge to barf. It wasn’t vomit though, it’s outrage, sadness and frustration. I am shaking with anger and despair that today, the one year anniversary of the Charlie Hebdo tragedy in Paris, our country is no safer or capable of using common sense.

Of course, I am a democrat, LA liberal so my views and politics are a contradiction to gun owners. My outrage and fist shaking is inconsequential. We live in an age of constant opinion with no listening or reason, constant information and speaking loudly in anonymity online yet living in blissful ignorance and inaction in real life. No, I’m not trying to sound deep here. I am just tired of tolerating things from online “friends and family” that I would never tolerate in real life. I am feeling like a hypocrite when I politely ignore the obnoxious drivel for the sake of not wanting to engage online. I spent most of my twenties not caring about politics or ever watching the news (pretty much my protest of the Bush administration). I can’t stand hearing all the horror on the news and shitty things going on in the world but when I became a parent, and became more involved in my community, I could no longer turn a blind eye to the shitty state of the world. I grew up and began to acknowledge awful things exist so I have be prepared and participate in the solutions. Terrorism is still new for me, I was deeply effected by 9/11 but it felt so far from sunny, safe California. I always knew the helicopter flying over my neighborhood at night was chasing a criminal but I haven’t been a victim yet so it’s been the luck of the draw. That doesn’t mean I’m going to arm myself like a militia. I don’t have a problem with gun owners. I have a problem with people who own semi-automatic weapons, anyone who owns a silencer, or hobbyist/collectors who own functioning weapons. There is absolutely no reason to go there. The only word I can think of to describe the NRA and the folks who support them is IMBECILE!

We now have a daughter. She has changed my life to an enormous degree. I am going to be honest, if my daughter was ever a victim of violence or tragedy, you wouldn’t see me on TV crying, wearing a pin to honor her memory. I would be in a jail or an insane asylum. A few weeks ago there was a threat to LAUSD which caused a mandatory closure of all public schools. Liv’s school was still open and at first I thought, she’ll be fine, her school is safe and I can’t raise her to be fearful. Then on my drive to school, I had a pit in my stomach so I just turned around and decided that nothing is worth my child’s life. I trusted my instinct and kept her home with me. The whole day I knew it would be a false alarm and I thought she could have gone to school but lately I have adapted to this  “Better safe than sorry” existence. The assholes have the upper hand.

There’s no way I could even think of something happening to her so when I read articles, tweets or see on TV anyone advocating for the NRA or making ridiculous statements about “Their rights to bear arms” or “If I had a gun, I could have prevented a crime” I get angry. I am always talking about wanting to move from this country that has more gun deaths in a day than other countries have in an entire year. However, after two attacks in Paris, nowhere is truly safe. Yet, the lack of common sense I heard during this Town Hall was infuriating. The facts are so disturbing. For most honest, law-abiding citizens who are responsible gun-owners, by making it harder for them to buy a gun will not stop shootings or deter crime. So what else can we do??!! Anything is better than nothing. I was waiting for our President to say what I’m screaming at the TV for 34 minutes. Then he finally started saying what I agree with most.

  1. No one is taking your guns or your right to bear arms away but making restrictions on gun purchases to make it harder for convicts, mentally ill or bad guys to access them. You know, I get so pissed when I hear the dumbs spouting about their constitution rights. Back when the dudes wrote it, they owned PEOPLE like property!! Women couldn’t vote!! You needed a gun to keep the British away!! It’s not the end of the world if the Constitution gets updated.
  2. If you are a law-abiding citizen, then why are you upset if there are more mandatory background checks? You still can buy guns but why shouldn’t it be harder and more training required? LIKE MAYBE IT WON’T HURT IF IT’S TO HELP PROTECT OUR KIDS!! I’m even all for smart guns. If it saves even one accidental gun death, it’s worth it.
  3. Just because you can’t stop every crime doesn’t mean you should stop trying to DO SOMETHING to stop potential crimes (or accidents or suicides!!). How can we just continue to do nothing and say a prayer for every innocent victim.
  4. We have restrictions and safety laws on a majority of our products (cars – seat belts/pills – childproof /etc.) that are in place to prevent deaths and yet guns are the only fatal item that causes resistance to making them safer!

I could go on but no matter how much I or anyone argues or try to apply common sense on this matter, there seems to be nothing stopping criminals, mentally ill people or terrorists from killing. Nor does it stop the FOX news to profit off of fear and their propaganda of having more guns make us safe. Then on top of all this we got Douchebag Trump’s smug potato face everywhere saying he’s going to be our next President. I can’t.

No matter how much I rant, get worked up and comment, I am just another jerk on the internet voicing my opinion and I’m fully aware that Nobody really gives a shit!

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**UPDATE: I have slept on my feelings and today I feel I need a break from my computer. Particularly The Facebook. I don’t know why I feed into the negativity and stupidity willingly. I really get bothered by folks who publicly announce they are leaving social media. To me it seems like they are doing it for attention or even vaguely hoping people will beg them to return but I feel like I’m not participating in a community of inspiration or creativity. Or maybe I’m overwhelmed by the nonstop news about shootings, the injustice I feel from watching Making a Murderer and the presidential race. I have to go with my instinct on this and bury my head in the sand for the sake of my sanity. It’s the comments on articles like this that have me tearing my hair out. My reality is, I am a happy person who is grateful for the life I have so I don’t want to stifle my happiness with the world’s drama. It’s a pity I am starting off the year like this but maybe it’s for the best. So Au revoir in dramatic fashion. It’s you not me!

 

Bonne Année 2016!

Bonjour new year! I am so stoked for 2016 mostly because my life has a weird pattern of incredible years being even-numbered (Antz and I met in 1996, got engaged in 2000, got married in 2002, bought our house in 2006, had Liv in 2010) As crazy as it sounds, it’s been a trend that my best years have been even ones. So…what’s my plan for twenty sixteen?

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My awesome agenda and pen is from Ban.do

No more new year resolutions!!

I am adopting a new system this year of making more reasonable monthly goals. I am much more inspired to commit on a smaller scale.

January’s Goals
Exercise three times a week (swim/jog/cardio)
Only drink water Monday – Friday (no more soda!)
Go on a family hike once a month
No credit cards (I am no longer on plastic!)
Save weekly (feels more do-able than monthly)

And what are we saving for…? A trip to Europe, of course!

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Bruges, Belgium looks dreamy.

My wanderlust is at it’s worst. I was speaking to Antz today and mentioned that our trip to Europe was already two years ago. It feels like a million years ago. There are so many rad cities I’d love to visit so it’s been impossible putting together an itinerary. I signed up for a membership on a house swap website so we can swap with someone and save money on accommodations. I’ve been thinking about our options for what time of year we’ll travel. Low gas prices means there is ridiculously inexpensive airfare now (shout out to my new fave Norwegian Air!) so this spring is my top choice. We would have more time to travel during the summer (however it’s the most expensive time to travel) and I don’t want to go during the Europe Cup and be miserable and hot. Spring has nicer weather, less crowds and everything looks so gorgeous. Liv has been saying we need to return to Amsterdam since we missed the tulip fields.

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I am excited that I can change my monthly goals as I achieve them and also maintain my goals all year long rather than forget about them in a few months. We took a lovely family walk around the neighborhood this afternoon. I downloaded this app to incorporate into our daily routine once Liv goes back to school. It feels like a gentle reminder to incorporate our goals into our life rather than feel stressed to complete something I’m not in the mood to do.

Olivia’s Godparents gave our family a membership to the Aquarium of the Pacific for Christmas so we are looking forward to spending more time with the penguins. Liv is all about the jellyfish and I could sit and watch the otters play all day. We took a trip during her Christmas break and I was so happy to enjoy our time without feeling we need to rush to see everything in one day. Knowing we can always come back allows us to spend more time focusing on a our favorite exhibits.

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We called this guy Bruce of course, he kept smiling for the camera.

There was a glass enclosed space that only a few people could fit in and see the penguins up close. I wish we could have stayed in there all day but other kids were impatiently waiting for us to move.

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Otters are the best! We plan to go at least twice a month. Merci Padrinos!

Here’s to a fabulous New Year full of travel, creating memories, experiencing new, exciting places and filling our house with photos not clutter.

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Less Plastic, more experiences!

This post is a good follow up to Liv’s bedroom makeover since that was a result of my new mind-set after having an epiphany from reading the (seriously) Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. I love to shop; from finding the perfect item, to getting best online bargain and that high from discovering packages on my porch. Olivia definitely has gotten the shopaholic bug from me now. She asks me, “Is that a package for me?” almost daily. However when I hear her asking for toys she sees on commercials or from youtube videos, I feel gross. Half the things are pure junk or she doesn’t even know what it is, she just knows she has to have it. Last summer I was feeling overwhelmed during our house tidying weekend, I was forced to think about what was really important to me. I was finding things I never even used once or I bought on an impulse. I was angry at myself for allowing so much clutter to accumulate in our house but my reasoning was always, we really need this stuff, our house is just too small.

My closet is all the evidence I needed that I’ve been overdoing it. I could hardly close the door and I never wore half the stuff crammed in the back. The Before & After shot.

Then I realized, our house is actually fine. When I think of what matters most to me it’s our memories from the fun times we’ve had. If my house was on fire and I could save only a few things, I would grab our photo books. Those books contain the priceless experiences we have shared as a family. Everything else are just replaceable things. So in that moment I decided to let go of the things. We totally have enough things.

Our precious “things” headed off to be donated or trashed!

I have proposed 2016 will be spent doing more and shopping less. I would much rather save our money for a lovely vacation than buy more Barbies or cute kick-knacks for the house. Now that Liv’s room is finished, I am all set to stop acquiring more stuff. I am making an exception for clothes, books and a few Christmas (not going overboard like last year) and birthday gifts but I’m ready to crack down. I can’t remember one trip to Target that we haven’t come home with things we don’t really need (I’m raising my hand here. Totally my lack of cuteness willpower!). Who isn’t guilty of shopping just because something was on sale but then later realized did I really need that? I did buy a few Christmas gifts on Black Friday (eye rolling at myself here but I couldn’t resist, they were on sale!) that I’ve been wanting all year, but I honestly purchased them out of necessity for next year’s travel plans.

Last weekend we took a field trip with her class to see the symphony at the Walt Disney Concert Hall. It was such an inspiring performance that I would love to subscribe for next year’s season.

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She brought Backpack Bear from school as her date. I love this photo of her sweet BFF I snapped after the show.

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I am also joining her school’s book club so every month she will get new books in French! Instead of writing her usual list of toys for Santa, I’ve asked Liv what things would she like to accomplish next year. We are joining LACMA and the Broad for sure. More concerts are on our to-do list. I would like her to take a skateboarding lesson with a friend of ours. I think a trip to Glaze Fire would be fun. My Mom mentioned a family camping trip would be fun. We definitely have to make to trip to the Safari Park in San Diego.

During the summer we finally made a trip to the LA Public Library in downtown. However, we didn’t plan for the parking to be cash only so we ended up parking at a meter for only 20 minutes. It was the fastest visit you could ever imagine.

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The interior was magnificent!

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The murals and painted wood ceilings are so dreamy!

IMG_7184IMG_7187It was very reminiscent of a Wes Anderson movie set. I forget we are so lucky to have fun things to do all the time. Next time we’ll be sure to have parking cash handy.

Liv has made her travel wishlist

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Iceland – sleep in an igloo to see the Northern Lights, swim in the Blue Lagoon and see puffins!

China  – she wants to see the Great Wall, the Forbidden City and buy a dragon kite.

Japan – to see the Mizayaki museum, sing karaoke and take the Hello Kitty airplane.

Sweden – visit the Pippi Longstocking museum/Junibacken park, go on a Viking ship and see Vasamuseum

Belgium – to eat chocolate and waffles and see Mannekin Pis

Mom’s travel wishlist (the short version)

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Copenhagen, Denmark – Tivoli Gardens (one of the oldest theme parks in the world), Louisana Museum and canal boat tour to photograph Nyhavn.
(since I’m already in Scandinavia, I have to visit my friends in…)

Helsinki, Finland – see the textiles at the Marimekko store, visit the Design museum and take a sauna in the country.

Amalfi Coast, Italy – soak up the sun and lounge on the beaches of Naples, Capri, Positano, Sorrento, I’m dying to see the Azure Window in Malta!

Strasbourg, France – an adorable city that looks like the village from Beauty & the Beast.

Vienna/Salzburg, Austria – my dream Christmas vacation. I need to go on the Sound of Music tour, see the Halstatt Salt Mines and eat apple strudel.

Sydney/Melbourne, Australia – it seems that all my favorite Instagram feeds are from down under. The beaches look awesome and the fun things to do there blows my mind (would I dare to try this?!)

I’m with Liv, we must go to Iceland for obvious reasons!!

Antz travel wishlist

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Anywhere I don’t have to carry tons of luggage, with good food and has air conditioning!

Best husband response ever.

So as this year comes to an end, we are excited with the unlimited possibilities for 2016. We have been studying our Maps book together as a family to research future travel ideas.

I’m Back!

Hi There! Honestly, it has been a rough summer for me. I couldn’t bring myself to blog because it’s hard to share when life gets shitty. I have wanted to post so many lovely events since Olivia’s birthday party (how great are those photos?) but my disappointment has been a dark cloud following me.

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Let me start by saying I am a persistent person. Almost ten years ago it took Antz and I thirteen months and writing twelve offers before we finally bought our house. I would write letters to the homeowners, bug my realtor to call at all hours of the night and still we would be outbid by tens of thousands of dollars every time. Each time we didn’t get the house, I was devastated but still continued to look, every weekend, more motivated than ever. It got to a point where Antz wanted to stop looking to wait for the Los Angeles crazy market to cool down. I couldn’t stop. Well, actually I wouldn’t stop. I knew there was a house for us (that we could actually afford) and we ended up with a much better house than all the others with a huge backyard in a now amazing neighborhood. I have always held out to get what I wanted rather than settle on what’s easy.

So, I do what I can to achieve my goals but some things are just out of my control. I can only dream so hard but in order to manifest these dreams I have, it’s going to take all the persistence in the world. I have been reluctant to share my dream on my blog because it’s public and I wanted to share it once I have a confirmation. It’s like not jinxing yourself, the more you talk about it, the less it happens. However, I was just so excited about it, I started sharing with close friends, and then not so close folks, and it got out of control when I caught myself telling the grocery store clerk. So here it is…

I have a dream to move to Paris for a year. Duh, if you know me it’s all I ever talk about.

I put together a solid plan to move by Spring of 2016. I spent months researching necessary paperwork, compiled a huge folder of required documents and talked to people who have lived abroad. Fortunately, last March, I was able to take a solo trip to Paris to surprise my best friend Aimee for my birthday but I was also apartment hunting and finding a school for Liv. I fell in love with a the perfect apartment and met with the rental agent to set everything up in person. I really felt at home in the neighborhood and took the metro alone all over the city. So I returned home really pumped because the plan to move there was falling into place. I wrote several blog posts detailing our moving abroad process. I have found so much information online and a few blogs have been invaluable for me to follow along on their journey living abroad. I made checklists and jumped for joy with every check I added. Then I hit a stand still. Reality slapped me on the backside. My version of reality was simple, we rent out our house in LA, propose to Antz job he works remotely from Paris and we enroll Liv in an International school. Getting a visa would have been manageable because Antz would still be employed by an American company. We had adequate health insurance and we were qualified for a carte de sejour (a twelve month tourist visa). I believe Liv would have an easy transition with French school since it’s the same curriculum and she would still receive a few hours of English lessons at her new school. We put our things in storage and spend fifteen months traveling Europe, while immersing ourselves in French. It was a little more complex than it sounds but those are the highlights.

I found a gorgeous apartment, found the perfect school, went to the City Records office to get all our documents and began the visa process. Then it came down the most important factor, getting permission from Antz boss to work abroad. I stayed optimistic although knowing it was a 50/50 chance. To me the odds were working in our favor but it was a huge request to make. It would be different if Antz worked for himself but he works for a major corporation so they have guidelines for things like this. Still, I hoped, wished and prayed for a positive response.

Sadly, the answer was no. I write this with a lump in my throat. There was no room for my persistence. Antz job is our life. He has worked hard to get where he is in his career and he has his dream job. I felt devastated but was so grateful that he asked so I could make my dream come true. He did his best. I did all that I could. Yet there was only so much we could do further to make it happen. My plan could only work if I checked all the boxes and working abroad wasn’t one that could be checked. So I fell into a depressed state. I couldn’t bring myself to blog because I planned to share my good news. It’s so hard to put this out there because I’m usually so cheerful and happy. I began to feel guilty for wanting this so bad that it was making me miserable. I am used to finding a way to make it work. Yet this is something out of my hands.

So this leaves me feeling sad and disappointed but ready to move on. I still have faith that we will move abroad one day but next year would have been absolutely perfect. I wanted to move while Olivia was still young enough to not feel too attached to her life here in LA. I would hate to uproot her, leave her friends and be the new kid at a foreign school. I am so grateful she will be fluent in French so it won’t affect her so greatly. I am constantly thinking about how I can make it work. I have emotionally moved to Paris. I don’t know how to detach my feelings but it all comes down to money. I remember so well feeling exactly the same way I do now during that year of looking for a house. I would say to Antz, if only we had more money but we ended up with a house that was less than the ones we put offers on. I can now look back to when I felt so hopeless and thank my lucky stars. It was meant to be for us and I know deep down that when we do move abroad, it will be so much sweeter. I will be able to live out my dream and it’s a rare thing to make your dreams come true. I  have missed blogging so I am excited to get back into it and post what we have been up to this summer.

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The last time I was in Paris  “J’espère te revoir bientôt!”

Liv for Geronimo Balloons

Two years ago Anthony bought a lovely Geronimo balloon for my 36th birthday. While we were at her studio, Jihan asked to take some photos of Liv. Jennifer Young was the incredible photographer who shot Liv. Yesterday Antz and I cleaned out Liv’s closet and got rid of stuff that no longer fit but I kept my favorite dress of hers, a black and white striped Misha Lulu dress.  I was in tears *is this just a Mom thing?* thinking of how much my little bebe has changed in two years. Her curls are so long now, her face is showing dimension, she tells us all the time that she’s not a baby anymore and I am finding it difficult to accept. I still remember this day like it was yesterday. Anyway, here’s the awesome photos Jennifer took of Liv for Geronimo.

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This photo is the best!! Her curls kill me

 

Thank you so much Jihan and Jennifer!!

2014: A Look Back in Pictures

This was a pretty rad year for our family. Two of the greatest things happened for me, Olivia was accepted into her French school and we took our AMAZING trip to Europe over the summer. I was super fortunate to attend Le Dîner en Blanc in Paris!! We took a few road trips to Palms Springs and San Francisco. I am in disbelief of how fortunate I am.

There were a few downsides this year, I didn’t post much about them on my blog but I touched upon them in this post. Overall, 2014 was awesome. I am super excited for the new year. I haven’t made a list of resolutions but I am hoping to stick to my Aspiration List. So far, I have already bought a new camera. I got so tired of complaining about the quality of my photos so I found a great deal on a Nikon D3300 dslr at Samy’s Cameras. Hopefully I won’t drop this one!

Here’s a look back at twenty fourteen!

We celebrated New Years Eve at Grand Park in Downtown LA
We partied on the Metro train
I updated my RAD Life List *and crossed off a bunch of things*
We ordered Olivia’s first passport
My dear *giant-headed* friends welcomed their beautiful daughter to the world
After years for searching, I finally got my Heath Nash It’s Beautiful Here coat rack
I became a member of LA Cake Club *and met new awesome friends*

Olivia worked her third Misha Lulu photo shoot *it was at a rad movie prop house*
Liv really loves these girls
I turned…uh, thirty seven!
Liv and I attended the second LA Cake Club
My bacon maple mini cupcakes were a hit!
This kid had a hoppy Easter
I scored at the Ban.do Fun Sale
My social media maven
We threw a Goodbye Party for Liv at her old Pre-school
We had a muy awesome Taco Fiesta in our backyard *which I had so much fun I forgot to take photos for my blog!*
I channeled my inner Wes Anderson for a look at What’s in the Bag? for our trip

We did some summer traveling abroad to London – Paris – Amsterdam
Liv took her first airplane ride
The flight attendants loved Liv

We stayed at my favorite hotel in the trendy, hipster Ace Hotel in Shoreditch
We had a rad photo shoot in Shoreditch with Lee Robbins
I cried when I got these photos from Lee *his photography looks like artwork*
I love this husband of mine *we’ve been together for eighteen years!*
Lee is my homie!!
We had the most fun during our photo shoot!
I almost killed everyone driving on the right side!
We ate authentic British Fish and chips
I did some Banksy hunting
We did some London siteseeing
Hung out with these dudes
Didn’t make him laugh
Antz pointed at a lot of things
We walked across London Bridge
We took a Black cabbie

We rode this guy
Ate like a local at a Street food fair
We took the Eurostar train from London to Paris
Settled into our lovely Parisian apartment
Had our first meal in Paris *best meal ever!*
This kid turned four
I think it’s safe to say she enjoyed her birthday
We marveled at the beauty of Versailles
Sofia Coppola’s Marie Antoinette is one of my favorite movies
The most opulent place I’ve ever been

We visited Pere Le Chaise cemetery
Ate some yummy fondue
Drank wine from baby bottles
Shopped at my favorite store
We took a ton of photo booth pictures
Vandalized a bridge

Saw where Quasimodo lived
Visited Liv’s future university
Liv rode a million carousels
Found the best park in Paris
Saw a French film *actually it was Maleficent and it was in English*
Discovered that we could possibly live in Paris because of this
We had a very special date night
We attended the white dinner thanks to my friend here
Had dinner with 13,000 people on a bridge over the Seine
My handsome date!
The view was not bad!
The most magical night of my life

We almost forgot to take Liv to see this classic landmark
Cheesy tourists
Guess who rode their one zillionth carousel?
I never ate better in my life
We took a river cruise on the prettiest day

We said au revoir to France and took the train to Amsterdam
Amsterdam wasn’t gorgeous at all!
Antz tried Dutch beer
and we ate Dutch pannenkoeken pancakes
We walked for hours and feel in love with the city
We were in Amsterdam during World Cup, everything was orange
We visited the Anne Frank house
We stayed at the world’s coolest hotel

Antz tried two local favorites, beer and fries with mayonnaise
We spent Fathers day at the beautiful and enormous Vondelpark

Just as soon as we arrived, it was time to leave
But we had to bring home some Holland wooden clogs
So sad to say goodbye to Europe
We got a special tour of the cockpit

Here’s a video of our entire trip

 

We attended the coolest art show ever

Antz turned thirty NINE!

We pigged out on fried food at the OC Fair

We spent our twelve year wedding anniversary at The Parker hotel in Palm Springs
 
This kid learned how to swim unassisted!
I channeled my inner Heathers
I did some harmless local trespassing
Olivia had her first day of pre-school at her new French school

We took a road trip with my Mom to The City
We stayed at my favorite hotel chain

We ate at a Carnival theme restaurant in Hayes Valley
Mmm, donut breakfast sandwich
We shopped at the prettiest candy store in California

We braved the Seward Street Slides

I drove on the crookiest street in America
We oogled the marvelous architecture of SF
Liv and I went to our third LA Cake Club meeting

We checked out the Hello Kitty exhibit at the Japanese American Museum
I pretty much owned everything here back in the eighties

We met Lena Dunham at her book signing
Liv was Rainbow Dash for Halloween
I had the most random encounter with Patton Oswalt  *whom I adore*
We attended Antz company Halloween party
We went trick or treating in Angelino Heights
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I was inspired by these words and put together my Aspiration List

We had our annual Crabsgiving with my Mom
We spent Thanksgiving morning in the most colorful way thanks to Jihan

This sweet bebe grew soo fast
My dear friends of ten years moved to Portland *I’m looking forward to visiting them soon*
Liv’s beauty shined bright during her photo shoot with Jess Koehler
She is growing up to be an extraordinary person
These are Liv’s school portraits. This was the first time I wasn’t there when she took her class photos but I knew she would be fantastic.

This photo pretty much kills me. I know life with Liv has only been four years but I’ve never felt so much joy, so much fulfillment being able to spend my days with her and so much love for my rad family. I am so stoked for 2015. I know it will be another remarkable year!

My Aspiration List

Now that Olivia is flourishing in her French school and we have taken our dream vacation, I’m ready to set some new goals for myself for the new year. I have a long list of rad things I’d like to accomplish but it always seems like there are dumb obstacles like money, poor timing, or being afraid of failure. I am no longer going to make excuses for not reaching for my goals.

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My Aspiration List
Practicing / French every Thursday with my tutor Fanny and the art of PATIENCE!
Mastering / icing a cake and being on time
Eating / more fresh fruit, less fast food and I really want to eat at Ba restaurant
Drinking / spa water, no more soda for me
Learning / to listen more than I speak, drive a stick shift and to stop procrastinating
Trying / to make my big, amazing dream come true next year (fingers crossed!)
Playing / Nintendo Wii with Olivia
Finishing / all the projects I start and Liv’s baby book (ahem, stop procrastinating!!)
Reading / Not That Kind of Girl and Pride & Prejudice & Zombies
Watching / American Horror Story: FreakshowBroad City and this Banksy documentary
Listening / Sia’s Chandelier and Phantogram
Remembering / to water our plants

our fig fiddle plant is doing so well

Wearing / white dresses, my new shoes and French braids in my hair
Cooking / everything in my crock pot
Working / on getting Olivia more modeling jobs and joining Pop Physique
Traveling / our next road trip to Portland and hopefully we’ll visit Evelyn & Dion in New York
Wanting / to say yes to new things, color my hair and to get Invisalign braces
Shopping / for new bedroom curtains, this print and a new camera (bought one on sale last week!)

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On Thanksgiving we participated in a secret confetti fight

What are your goals/dreams/aspirations? You have any big New Year plans? I have a huge one but I going to wait to share it. Bonne Chance!

Not That Kind of Girl

I have been anticipating Lena Dunham’s new book for almost two years now. I pre-ordered my copy in advance before the official release date. I missed out on the book tour performance dates for LA but she had a book signing at the Grove last Tuesday. I showed up early in the morning and was number twenty five in line. Lucky for me, my friend Christina showed up so we were able to catch up about her recent trip to Europe. We were given priority wristbands so when we returned at 7 pm, we would line up in the order of our wristbands.








The security dudes were hilarious. They definitely took their job too seriously so it was impossible to pose with her so all I got was this lousy selfie.
I was super nervous for some weird reason
How do you get a four year old to wait patiently in line without having a meltdown? Bribe her with candy of course!

 Ugh, I know my photos are horrible but Barnes & Noble had some intense security and there was no photography allowed at the desk so I snapped that one on the down-low. The security was practically going to tackle me if I tried to take a photo so I turned the video on my iphone and you can hear the conversation I had with my new friend Lena.  

Sorry, I know the video sucks but Lena is sooo sweet. I was so creepy and smiley. I never get starstruck but I was speechless. At least Olivia had the balls to talk to her.

//player.vimeo.com/video/109410009 Lena Dunham Book Signing from sunkissis on Vimeo.

She is the perfect balance of awkward grace and confidence and I love her even more. Buy her book! Not That Kind of Girl.